Have you ever noticed that some people seem to be happy no matter what lot in life they currently reside in? Or that some people are able to overcome those major depressive bumps faster than others? Does it seem like no matter how hard life tries to knock these people down they just don’t stay down for long? Maybe it is because finding the secret to happiness is not as elusive as it may seem and these people have already found the key.
So, you ask, how can you go about finding the very same secret? The truth is, the secret really is not that hard to find. The answer to finding and keeping happiness in your life is to simply live it – think happiness, practice happiness. By turning the following concepts into daily habits you too will find that you are happy more often than you are not.
Count Your Blessings
“Count your blessings” is not simply an expression about being grateful you still have the important things left after tragedy strikes. No, literally count your blessings and do it on a daily basis. It may seem silly, but after a while it becomes a habit to be grateful every day for the things that you have. You begin to focus on the things that you already have and the over powering desire for things you do not have fades to the background, taking with it any feelings of envy, depression, loneliness, or anger.
Always Be Positive
This probably goes without saying, but keeping a positive outlook even in the face of adversity increases happiness. Optimism prevents loss of hope. It also keeps a person going forward in the event most hope is lost. It is the spark that keeps the eternal flame of hope alive even in the darkest hour.
In fact, a person with an optimistic attitude has a better outlook on life. Those people with a positive outlook on life tend to have less non-content moments than those that do not. They are happier with their jobs, their income, their relationships, and just about every other aspect as well.
Make the Most of Relationships
Be sure to maintain a close relationship with family and close friends. These are the people that make you laugh and feel good on a daily basis. They may not always make you feel happy and may even make you feel sad or angry, but they are always there not matter what happens. They are usually the ones that are quick to forgive and see past imperfections that others refuse to overlook.
While being positive and upbeat usually means a person has more friends, this is not always the case. Nor should it be the goal because having more friends does not mean that a person will feel fulfilled. It is about the quality of the relationships that are developed rather than the quantity.
They say smiling can confuse an enemy, but more important than that, it can change your mood. Studies indicate that a person can turn his or her own mood around by making a point to smile even when he or she is not feeling particularly happy. It is like a mental pep talk that begins to change thinking, which in turn changes mood. Not to mention, smiling is contagious. When others see you smile they smile back and seeing someone else return a smile is sure to impart good feelings.
Be Quick to Forgive
Being quick to forgive is not a weakness. It actually takes a lot more character and strength to let go of the hurt and anger after someone hurts you that bad. It also does not mean that you are naive enough to let the same person hurt you over and over again. What it does mean is that you have mastered the art of taking control of your feelings about painful situations. Forgiveness is not about letting the other person win or not be held accountable for their actions. You can forgive; you don’t have to forget.
Forgiveness is for your benefit because carrying around all the negative emotions associate with a grudge is harmful. It causes stress and resentment, and those things cause health problems. They also steal away the happiness that you would normally have in your life. Therefore, it is best not to hold a grudge and be quick to forgive instead. You may remember what someone has done to you, but it becomes a learning experience rather than one that continues to eat away at your emotions.
Give It All to God
Finally, the most important thing to remember is that faith is the ultimate key to happiness. No matter what the circumstance is, it is not too big for God to handle. When things begin to become too overwhelming to handle alone, give it all up to God. Knowing everything is in his hands takes a load of stress and worry away. In fact, this is so effective that doing this even when everything is going well makes life more enjoyable.
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